Thursday, May 24, 2007

8 attitudes That Prevent You From Getting What You Want

I was listening to an interview with Homer McDonald recently and was struck by the massive contradiction in what he was saying with my belief in the importance of absolute honesty and transparency/always speaking your truth.

McDonald says one should always find a way to agree with the other person is saying. Then, when you’re on the same side of the fence, the other person will be more open to hearing what you have to say.

“Yes, you’re right, I am never at home when you need me. It must be very painful for you ….’

If one starts from a place of opposition, the other person resists what you are saying and you’ll never find a solution.

This has more to do with kindness and compassion and protecting the other person’s pride, allowing them to feel you understand and empathise with them, than it does with dishonesty.

I think one needs to always come from a place of mutual respect.

So, show respect and compassion for the other person but also practice self reverence. This includes speaking up for yourself (regarding your needs.) and developing healthy boundaries.

As sa Baba once said, ‘You don’t always have to agree, but you can always be agreeable. ‘

Out of interest, here are McDonald’s 8 attitudes that cause all the trouble in partnerships.
Exaggeration2. Guilt 3. Self-pity (unhappiness) 4. Low self-esteem5. Self-righteousness 6. Submission to feelings 7. Blaming and escaping responsibility8. Believing that differences cause problems

For more on each of these attitudes see
http://www.stopyourdivorce.com/troubled-relationship.htm

Interestingly, at lot of these issues show up in your hands. Issues of trust and communication show up in one’s Mercury (little) finger.

More on this in the next blog: Do you trust your partner, your intuition, the universe?

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